The Essence of You Podcast

In this special live episode of The Essence of You, host Steph Lokelani hands the mic to executive coach and mental performance strategist Mike Krause for a full podcast takeover recorded in front of over 50 leaders at the Hemingway Building on Boise State University campus as part of the Leadership Boise program through the Boise Metro Chamber.
Mike leads a rich, wide-ranging conversation on leadership, legacy, and succession with three guests who have each led organizations through growth, change, and transition: Kevin Bailey of the Idaho Community Foundation, Angela Taylor of the Taylor LEAD Foundation and former President and General Manager of the Atlanta Dream WNBA team, and host Steph Lokelani of In Real Life Films and #OMGFemaleFilmmakers.
Together they explore what it means to lead authentically and what gets in the way. From Angela's experience watching sports coaches lose themselves trying to replicate a predecessor, to Kevin's practice of writing his values on his bathroom mirror each morning, to Steph leaving a corporate career at HP to build IRL Films on her own terms, the conversation is candid, grounded, and full of hard-won wisdom.
They dig into how to build championship cultures (and what the San Antonio Spurs can teach your nonprofit), why having team members with different values makes you stronger, when to trust your gut even if it means being wrong, and what it truly takes to delegate when you're a founder who's done everything yourself.
Angela shares the story of the Taylor LEAD Foundation, a family-founded 501(c)3 focused on getting Idaho girls into sports and scholar athletes into college, including this: 94% of C-suite female leaders in Fortune 500 companies played sports. Kevin pulls back the curtain on how the Idaho Community Foundation manages over $300 million in charitable assets, and what the real funding gap looks like for nonprofits in Idaho.
And Steph's closing answer to Mike's final question about what she hopes the people she's filmed, mentored, and worked with will carry forward in ten years lands exactly where this podcast was always headed.
About the Guests:
Mike Krause is an executive coach and mental performance strategist with Global Bound, LLC, where he partners with executives and emerging leaders to enhance performance, support sustainable growth, and strengthen holistic wellbeing both inside and outside the workplace. He brings over 25 years of executive leadership experience in the nonprofit sector, including 4½ years with the United States Department of State in Southern and Central Africa, where his work focused on public health initiatives and cross-cultural leadership.
Mike serves as an executive coach for the Idaho Leads program and is the developer and lead facilitator of the Ascending Leaders initiative through the Idaho Community Foundation. He is currently pursuing a master’s degree in Sport and Performance Psychology, while co-hosting a weekly podcast and traveling throughout the country speaking on leadership, workplace culture, and mental fitness practices.
Kevin Bailey is the Vice President of Community Impact at the Idaho Community Foundation. He oversees the Idaho Nonprofit Center nonprofit support programming as well as ICF’s grantmaking functions. Kevin was previously the CEO of the Idaho Nonprofit Center and was part of merging the Idaho Nonprofit Center into ICF in late 2024. Kevin and his wife, Becca, have 3 young boys, ages 10, 8, and 5. In his spare time he loves to hike, bike, and ski in Idaho’s beautiful mountain areas.
Angela Taylor is a trailblazing sports executive, entrepreneur, and leadership strategist committed to helping people and organizations reach their full potential. A former Stanford women’s basketball player and two-time NCAA National Champion, Angela went on to hold leadership roles across the WNBA, including positions with the league office, Washington Mystics, Atlanta Dream, and Minnesota Lynx. Today, she brings that same championship mindset to her work as Co-Founder and Partner of The Dignitas Agency, where she advises clients on leadership development, organizational culture, inclusion, and sustainable change. Through The Taylor LEAD Foundation, Angela continues to invest in the next generation by creating pathways for young people, women, and underserved communities to thrive.
Steph Lokelani is a proud graduate of the 2023 LB cohort and has called Boise home for over 21 years. She founded #OMGFemaleFilmmakers 8 years ago and In Real Life Films in 2025 with a clear mission: to serve Idaho nonprofits and local businesses, such as HP and Boise Cascade, through purposeful video storytelling. What started as a local vision has grown into a recognized production company serving 25+ Treasure Valley nonprofits, attracting national partners, and creating local jobs. Steph leads with heart, annually offering pro bono video and podcast production and currently serves as board president of Treasure Valley Children's Theater. When she's not behind the camera, she's strength training, running half marathons for fun, and giving her dog and cats a safe and happy place to live.
Key Takeaways:
1. Authenticity is alignment, not a personality type. Being authentic as a leader isn't about having a certain style, it's about knowing your values, living them out, and showing up consistently enough that your team knows what to expect. When leaders try to replicate someone else, they erode trust without even knowing it.
2. Values are a toolkit, not a fixed list. Kevin keeps his core values written on his bathroom mirror and chooses one to lead with each day. As life changes, values shift. The goal isn't one immovable set it's knowing your values well enough to amplify the right ones in the right situations.
3. Difference is a feature, not a bug. Whether on a film set, a WNBA team, or a nonprofit, you don't want everyone to think like you. Different values, creative instincts, and strengths are where innovation lives. The key is alignment around organizational mission, not personal match.
4. The role of opposites in succession. Angela observed that when replacing an unsuccessful leader, organizations naturally look for someone different, but when replacing a successful one, they often clone, leaving no room for new vision. Real succession planning makes space for different leadership to carry the mission forward in new ways.
5. Leadership is stewardship, not ownership. All three guests circled back here: the role of a leader is to be a caretaker for the mission, the culture, and the people, not to make it about themselves. That humility is the foundation of lasting legacy.
6. You cannot grow your business if you're doing all the work inside it. Steph is living this right now - delegating for the first time, hiring an editor, sending her team to cover events while she focuses on business development. Angela and Kevin both name the discomfort: when you're a natural doer, stepping back feels like not doing enough. But leadership requires a different kind of output.
7. Trust your intuition and act on it sooner. Angela learned this the hard way: she knew within weeks which team members weren't right for her organization but waited a year to act. The delay cost the culture. Leaders who pause too long on people decisions often pay for it with everyone else's morale.
8. Communicating the why is not optional. Vision only moves teams when it's shared. If people don't understand the North Star, they fill the gap with resistance. And leading from a vision - not just a plan - is what allows you to navigate when the plan breaks down. The power outage the night before this recording was a live test of exactly that.
9. 94% of C-suite women in Fortune 500 companies played sports. Angela built the Taylor LEAD Foundation on this data. A 39-point gap separates girls below the poverty line from those with access to sports. Getting girls in the game isn't just an equity issue, it's a leadership pipeline issue.
10. Standing up for yourself is a leadership skill. Steph admits it comes naturally to stand up for her team - oldest of four kids, lifelong big sister energy - but advocating for herself as a business owner has been the hardest thing. Learning to speak up for her own needs and boundaries has been its own kind of growth.
Chapters:
00:00 — Welcome and Episode Intro00:45 — Mike Introduces the Guests and Setting03:27 — Kicking Off: How Do You Frame Leadership?04:22 — Kevin: Lead From Who You Are, Not Who You Admire05:57 — Angela: Everyone Can Be a Leader — Find Your Own Voice08:10 — Steph: Authenticity Means Giving Your Team Room to Lead09:02 — Mike Opens the Floor: What Is Authenticity, Really?10:28 — Angela: When Leaders Lose Themselves (The Sports Coaching Analogy)13:03 — Kevin: Writing His Values on His Bathroom Mirror15:10 — Mike: Values Under Pressure, Trust, and Emotional Contagion17:20 — Mike Asks Steph: What Made You Go Out on Your Own?17:51 — Steph: Leaving HP and Choosing Alignment Over Stability19:27 — From OMG Female Filmmakers to IRL Films: A Rebrand with Purpose20:43 — Angela: Building Championship Culture — The Spurs Model24:57 — Kevin: The CAR Model — Competency, Autonomy, and Relatedness in Hiring27:07 — Legacy: What Are You Hoping to Leave Behind?27:38 — Kevin: The Coaching Tree — Joy in Watching Others Find Their Footing28:44 — Angela: From Achievement to Impact — The Moment She Found Her Why30:42 — Steph: Leaving a Piece of Yourself in Every Story You Tell31:42 — Mike: Leadership Is Stewardship32:00 — Idaho Community Foundation: What They Do and How It Works38:00 — Taylor Lead Foundation: Scholar Athletes, Girls in Sports & the 94% Stat44:42 — Audience Q: Are Different Values on Your Team Good or Bad?47:33 — Angela: The Role of Opposites in Succession Planning52:35 — Steph: I Don't Want My Team to Have the Same Values as Me53:25 — Working Across Differences: Steph's Political Client Story54:00 — Angela: Values as a Funnel — Stop Drilling Down Into Division57:01 — Mike and Kevin: Curiosity as a Leadership Superpower59:14 — Audience Q: How Do You Step Back and Learn to Delegate?59:55 — Kevin: The 80/20 Rule — On the Business vs. In the Business1:01:07 — Angela: Six Types of Working Geniuses and Finding Your Role1:06:50 — Steph: Delegating in Real Time — and Running a Half Marathon1:08:45 — Audience Q: Women in Male-Dominated Leadership Spaces1:09:12 — Steph: Approach Everyone as Equals and Be Direct1:10:09 — Angela: Intention vs. Impact — Developing Your Leadership Range1:11:14 — Audience Q: What Did You Have to Learn the Hard Way?1:11:17 — Steph: Not Everybody Is Going to Like You1:11:22 — Kevin: Keep Showing Up — How He Became a Leader1:13:24 — Angela: Trust Your Intuition — Don't Wait a Year to Act1:16:41 — Steph: Balancing Your Vision with Your Team's Input On Set1:18:30 — Mike: Communicating the Vision from the Start1:19:20 — Vision vs. Plan: What Happens When Things Fall Apart1:21:35 — Angela: Leading from a North Star, Not a Blueprint1:23:31 — Kevin: The Nonprofit Funding Crisis in Idaho1:27:03 — Audience Q: What Was the Hardest Leadership Decision You've Made?1:28:52 — Steph: The Hardest Thing Has Been Standing Up for Myself1:29:44 — Closing: What Do You Hope Your Legacy Carries Forward?1:30:04 — Kevin: I Hope They Authentically Be Themselves1:31:00 — Angela: Mindset First — Lean Into Your Authentic Self Sooner1:32:13 — Steph: Everyone Has a Story to Tell and Everyone Brings Value1:32:48 — The Essence of You: Finding Who You Are Beyond Your Labels

Steph Lokelani sits down with her friend and self-described "creative human," Tiffany Eller, for a warm, wide-ranging, and deep conversation that covers theater debuts, dream interpretation, personal mission statements, soul contracts, and a compelling theory about AI-generated misinformation that is quietly dividing Americans on Facebook. Together, Steph and Tiffany talk about what it means to follow your inspiration, how the body tells you when you're in or out of alignment, and why creating safe spaces for people to express themselves might be the most meaningful work any of us will ever do.
About Tiffany Eller: 
Tiffany Eller is a multi-disciplinary artist and ADHD-riddled creator dabbling in everything life has to offer. From making silly reels for local businesses to taking on her first-time acting gig, she’s determined to express herself in as many ways as possible. Her mission is to create safe spaces for others to express themselves just as fully. Tiffany is a Boise native and mother to a daughter that matches her in her silliness and often outwits her humor. 
In this episode, we chat about: 
🎭 Tiffany's First Acting RoleTiffany is making her stage debut in Funnie: The Most Lamentable Comedie of Jane the Foole, a play by The Luminary Theater Co. set in King Henry VIII's court. It starts as a comedy and becomes a powerful commentary on sexual assault and the silencing of women. Think the MeToo movement, but in the 1500s. Tiffany plays Bessie, a Cockney handmaiden with a brand-new accent she's never attempted before. Steph's advice? Nerves mean you're going to be incredible.
🎭 Boise Bard PlayersTiffany shares about her role as managing director and the company's mission to make Shakespeare and classical theater affordable and accessible to the Treasure Valley, including their current truncated, one-hour production of Much Ado About Nothing with a 9pm "spicy adult night" that plays up all the Shakespeare sex jokes that went over your head in high school.
✏️ Being a Creative HumanFrom window murals and crocheting to video editing and co-writing a full-length play with her partner Dakota Brown, Tiffany talks about how her creativity spills into every medium. The untitled play is set on the night of Orson Welles' War of the Worlds broadcast in 1938, exploring media hysteria, political fear, and the family fractures that happen when ideology gets louder than love. Tiffany and Dakota need a title for this play! Drop your idea in the comments.
🧭 Body Alignment as a CompassTiffany has learned to read her body like a compass. When she's in alignment: energized, low pain, at ease. When she's not: tight chest, back pain, recurring ailments that disappear the moment she changes a circumstance. This conversation is a great reminder to pay attention to what your body is quietly telling you.
💭 Dream InterpretationOne of the most magical parts of the episode where Tiffany and Steph interpret their dreams for each other. Who knew they both used to do dream interpretation!? The two also get into dream journaling, lucid dreaming, and astral projection.
✨ "I Am a Soul Healer"Years ago, Tiffany worked with a criminal profiler-turned-consultant who helped her uncover her personal mission statement: I am a soul healer who creates safe spaces for people to express themselves. Tiffany traces this thread through everything she's ever done, from being a college RA to running the Idaho Pun Slam to the way strangers regularly tell her things they've never told anyone. The insight: a mission statement isn't what you do. It's how you be.
🔗 Soul Contracts & Energy VampiresDo you believe some people come into your life because you made an agreement with them before you were even born? Steph and Tiffany explore the idea of soul contracts, the lesson-shaped people who keep showing up in different forms, and what it means when someone repeatedly takes more energy than they give.
🚪 Learning Not to Fear PeopleTiffany opens up about a lifelong social anxiety - specifically, her old inability to make eye contact. She realized it was never fear of other people. It was fear of herself. She didn't trust that she could hold a boundary if someone misread her warmth as an invitation. That shift in understanding changed everything.
💛 Holding Space vs. Trying to FixOne of the hardest things to learn in any close relationship: letting someone be upset without immediately jumping in to solve it. Tiffany shares how this lesson keeps coming up in her relationships and how she's slowly learning that peace comes from letting people feel what they need to feel, not from handing them a solution.
🤖 AI Misinformation & Fake Facebook GroupsTiffany puts on her tinfoil hat and makes a genuinely eye-opening case: large Facebook groups with Idaho-centric identities appear to be run entirely by fake AI-generated profiles and may be coordinated by foreign agents designed to sow political division. She breaks down how the groups build trust with harmless or funny content, then sneak in divisive political posts to spark arguments in the comment sections. She's spotted the same pattern in states across the country and she has a practical call to action in response to these groups.
🌟 Closing Question: Who Are You at Your Core?Their answers may or may not surprise you.
Chapters:
0:00 – Cold Open: Welcome & Cat Chaos (with Osiris the Cat)0:35 – Introducing Tiffany Eller: The Creative Human1:48 – How Steph & Tiffany Met2:43 – Tiffany's Theater Debut: Funnie, The Most Lamentable Comedie of Jane the Foole6:11 – What Made You Audition for the First Time?8:25 – Boise Bard Players & Accessible Shakespeare10:00 – The Many Forms of Tiffany's Creativity (ADHD & Art)10:41 – Writing a New Play: War of the Worlds, 1938 & Political Division17:18 – What Brought You to This Moment in Your Life?19:38 – Reading Your Body: Physical Signs of Alignment vs. Misalignment22:53 – Dream Interpretation: How to Start Decoding Your Dreams24:10 – Steph's Dream: Frodo, the Raft & the River Styx29:59 – Tiffany's Dream: Directing A Cappella & Trusting Your Gut31:17 – What Three Groups in a Dream Could Mean34:51 – Lucid Dreaming, Astral Projection & Dream Journaling38:15 – Where Your Personal Story Meets Your Work in the World39:57 – "I Am a Soul Healer": Tiffany's Personal Mission Statement44:00 – Do You Believe in Soul Contracts?47:07 – Energy Vampires, Cookie-Cutter People & Learning Relationship Lessons51:00 – A Stranger at the Door: We're All in This Together53:29 – Overcoming Fear of People Through Boundary Work55:57 – Holding Space vs. Jumping to Solutions1:00:59 – The Experience That Changed How Tiffany Shows Up for Others1:03:59 – Tiffany's Tinfoil Hat Theory: AI Bots, Fake Facebook Groups & Political Manipulation1:14:00 – Closing Question: Who Are You at Your Core?1:19:00 – Outro & Guest Invitation

In this episode of The Essence of You, host Steph Lokelani sits down with her friend Adrienne Esposito, Vice President and Branch Manager at WaFd Bank, 2025 Boise Chamber Connector of the Year, and one of the Treasure Valley's most passionate community advocates.
What starts as a warm conversation about shared history quickly becomes a deeply personal exploration of purpose, dignity, faith, and what it truly means to serve your community from the inside out.
Adrienne opens up about her journey from the restaurant industry to banking, her decade-long commitment to Idaho's ALICE population (Asset Limited, Income Constrained, Employed), and why she believes local businesses hold the real key to lifting their communities. She shares a story most people don't know - that she was married at 16 and had four children by the age of 21 - and how living through welfare offices, food insecurity, and the quiet degradation of poverty became the fuel behind her tireless advocacy. Her message isn't about handouts. It's about giving people back their dignity.
Steph brings her own vulnerability too, sharing what it was like growing up in Hawai'i with a family that was turned away from food stamps despite being stretched thin and the extraordinary discovery that she is a direct descendant of King Kamehameha, only to watch her cousins be priced off the very islands her family has called home for generations.
Together, they tackle some of today's most pressing conversations: the Idaho housing and wage crisis, the impact of social media on youth identity and mental health, the power of asking "why" without judgment, what it means to ride the fence in a politically divided world, and how faith can be the most grounding force in a noisy life.
This episode is warm, honest, and full of the kind of insight that only comes from people who have lived what they preach.
In this episode:
- How Adrienne went from waitressing to VP of a community bank- What the ALICE population is and why it likely affects someone you know- Adrienne's personal story of living on public assistance as a young mother- Steph's Hawai'i roots and the real cost of tourism on locals- A royal connection: Steph's direct lineage to King Kamehameha- Idaho's housing and minimum wage crisis in 2026- Social media, body image, and what we owe the next generation- Why asking "why" is one of the most generous things you can do- What it means to be a "fence rider" in today's political climate- Adrienne's faith-grounded answer to: Who are you at your core?- What gets Steph out of bed every morning (hint: it's adventure)- What gets Adrienne out of bed every morning (hint: JC)
About Adrienne: 
WaFd Bank Vice President and Branch Manager Adrienne Esposito is a respected Idaho business leader with more than 30 years of executive leadership experience and a strong reputation for relationship-driven banking, community impact, and leadership development. She is known for helping businesses grow while creating meaningful connections throughout Idaho’s Treasure Valley through mentorship, financial education, and strategic community partnerships.
Adrienne actively serves and supports organizations including the United Way of Treasure Valley, Habitat for Humanity, and Girl Scouts of Silver Sage. She is a recipient of the 2023 TWIN Award, the 2025 Boise Metro Chamber Connector of the Year award, and a two-time nominee/finalist for the Idaho Business Review Women of the Year recognition.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Cold Open: Ducks, Outdoor Cats & Farm Life00:54 - Welcome & Introductions02:43 - Meet Adrienne: VP and Branch Manager at WaFd Bank & Community Ambassador03:35 - Boise Chamber Connector of the Year 202506:04 - Leadership Boise vs. Leadership Meridian08:07 - 30 Years in the Treasure Valley08:44 - The ALICE Population: Why Nonprofits Matter16:35 - Paying It Forward - Local Hiring & Living Wages22:04 - Adrienne's Career Journey: From Restaurants to Banking26:45 - The Entrepreneur Mindset: From Kitty Cat to Tiger29:58 - Adrienne's Personal "Why": Married at 16, Four Kids by 2134:34 - Steph's Hawai'i Roots & Family Food Insecurity36:43 - Tourism's Hidden Cost on Local Hawaiian Communities40:11 - Descendants of King Kamehameha42:38 - Idaho's Housing & Wage Crisis47:35 - Social Media, Body Image & the Next Generation59:39 - The Power of Asking "Why"1:00:50 - Open Dialogue: Politics, Shared Values & Seeking to Understand1:05:48 - Is Your Glass Half Full or Empty?1:10:39 - Final Question: Who Are You at Your Core?1:15:32 - JC: Jesus & Coffee - What Gets You Out of Bed1:17:22 - Steph's Why: Adventure & Following People's Journeys1:21:22 - Closing & Thank You

What if the thing that saved you as a kid is now the thing you're building for the next generation?
In this episode of The Essence of You, host Steph Lokelani sits down with two of her closest friends - Allison Terenzio-Moody, Executive Director of Treasure Valley Children's Theater (TVCT), and her husband Noah Moody, playwright, director, and educator - for a warm, funny, and unexpectedly moving conversation about the transformative power of the arts.
From running through caves dodging zombies in a 48-hour horror film to running one of the Treasure Valley's most beloved nonprofit theaters, Allison and Noah share the journey that brought them to where they are today. The three dig into why children's theater deserves the same respect as any other art form, the life skills it quietly builds in young people, and the very real ways TVCT has been a lifeline for kids who had nowhere else to turn.
Noah opens up about growing up feeling like he didn't belong until the stage gave him a world where he did. Allison reflects on becoming the advocate, grizzly bear mama, and community builder she never knew she'd need to be. And Steph brings her own stories: a production of You're a Good Man, Charlie Brown that made her realize performance was her dream, and a childhood friendship forged under stage lights that survived a decade and a random run-in in Cambodia.
They also get into the real talk around sustaining a nonprofit: what it means to never turn away a child because of finances, the emotional weight of parents who apologize for needing help, and why Idaho Gives (May 4–7) is such a critical moment for organizations like TVCT.
This one is joyful, honest, and full of heart. Whether you're a theater kid at heart, a parent wondering if the arts are "worth it," or someone still searching for your people, this episode is for you.
🎭 About Treasure Valley Children's Theater:TVCT is a nonprofit theater company dedicated to making the arts accessible to every child in the Treasure Valley, regardless of financial circumstance. They offer classes, productions, camps, and school tour shows. And they never turn a student away.💛 Support their work: https://www.treasurevalleychildrenstheater.com/ and donate during Idaho Gives (May 4-7) at: https://www.idahogives.org/organizations/treasure-valley-childrens-theater
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About our Guests:
Allison Terenzio-Moody (she/her) earned her B.A. in English and Creative Writing from Seattle University and her Master’s in Education from New York University. Before being named the Executive Director of Treasure Valley Children’s Theater (TVCT) in 2023, she spent over eight years teaching, developing curriculum, and serving as the TVCT Education Director.
Noah Moody is an actor, educator, and writer at Treasure Valley Children's Theater. Born and raised in Boise, ID and about to celebrate 10 years with the company, he has also been a theater artist in the Treasure Valley for the last 20 years. Having performed with the likes of Idaho Shakespeare Festival, Boise Contemporary Theatre, Alley Repertory Theater, Noah is very proud to call TVCT his home for the past decade along with his amazing and remarkably patient wife, TVCT Executive Director Allison Terenzio Moody.
Chapters:
0:00 – Cold Open & Welcome0:35 – Introducing Allison Terenzio-Moody & Noah Moody3:37 – Allison's TVCT Story: From Actor to Executive Director4:59 – Noah's 10 Years at TVCT7:54 – Why Children's Theater Deserves Respect15:11 – Origin Stories: How They Each Fell in Love with Theater27:50 – What the Stage Really Teaches Kids35:00 – Finding Your People: Community, Belonging & Beating Loneliness40:43 – TVCT as a Nonprofit: Scholarships & Never Turning Kids Away49:53 – Idaho Gives: How You Can Support TVCT This Week53:57 – Who Are You at Your Core?1:05:27 – Closing Thoughts & Gratitude

What does it mean to look like you fit in everywhere but feel like you belong nowhere? Angela Reish knows that feeling well.
In our third episode of The Essence of You, host Steph Lokelani sits down with her longtime friend Angela, a woman she first met through the belly dancing community years ago, who describes herself as "espresso in a sea of milk." On the surface, Angela looks like she checks all the "typical American girl" boxes. But scratch a little deeper and you'll find a woman forged by post-WWII German immigrants, four years in the US Air Force, a marriage of two radically different worlds, and a calling to show up for kids that nobody else sees.
Angela grew up in a house where the inside was Germany and the outside was America, and her parents never quite understood the threshold between the two. Her father, who lost his own dad to the war, spent part of his childhood in a work camp in postwar Germany. Her mother was bombed out multiple times before the family immigrated first to Canada, then to California. That Old World upbringing - strict, formal, blunt, and deeply regimented - shaped Angela in ways she's still unpacking. 
Steph and Angela talk about the invisible weight of being raised between two cultures, how those roots show up in your parenting, your marriage, and even the way you end a phone call (Germans just... hang up). Angela shares her years in the Air Force, which fit her German wiring perfectly, and the rude awakening of re-entering civilian life where military experience was largely dismissed. She reflects on a marriage between two people who came from completely different worlds, and the hard, funny, real work of raising a son.
Then there's the work she does now. Angela is a nearly-full-time substitute teacher, and she has thoughts. She paints a vivid and honest picture of what teachers actually deal with, classrooms full of kids who are each a product of entirely different home lives, traumas, privileges, and cultures. She talks about finding her people in the theater and choir kids, creating a safe space for an LGBTQ+ student who told her she'd never met someone her age so open, and the quietly profound experience of working with the RISE program for nonverbal, special-needs students.
And yes, there's a bully story. A sophomore, a jacket from Chinatown, a school bus, and fifty kicks in the back. Angela tells it with the kind of humor and grace that only comes from having fully survived something.
At the core of this conversation is a woman who gives a damn - loudly, imperfectly, and without apology. Angela is proof that the most interesting people often look the most ordinary on the surface, and that showing up for others, even when nobody's paying you nearly enough to do it, is one of the most quietly radical things a human being can do.
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About Angela Reish:
Angela Reish’s journey is rooted in service, resilience, and growth. Gen X now 57, like the ketchup, she began her career in the Air Force before spending 25 years in the corporate world. In the past three years, she’s embraced a new chapter as a high school substitute teacher, continuing her commitment to making a difference.
Married for 28 years and proud of her German heritage, Angela brings a grounded perspective shaped by life experience, adaptability, and perseverance.
Chapters
00:00 – Welcome & Introduction00:29 – How Steph & Angela Met Through Belly Dancing04:10 – Angela on Watching Steph's Creative Journey06:59 – "What Makes You Different?"07:32 – Growing Up With German Immigrant Parents09:50 – Father's WWII Story: A Family Shaped by War12:12 – Immigration to Canada, Then California14:43 – When the Inside of Your House Is Germany & the Outside Is America19:53 – Living in Idaho for 21 Years as a Non-Native21:10 – The International Perspective (ft. Reham)23:09 – Marriage, Parenting & Clashing Upbringings29:25 – Husband's First Trips Abroad32:20 – The Air Force Years: Her Version of College39:28 – Corporate America: HP, Micron & Silicon Valley Rules42:17 – Becoming a Substitute Teacher Post-COVID44:38 – What Teaching Actually Looks Like (What People Don't See)48:39 – Elementary vs. Junior High vs. High School Energy51:23 – Building Real Connections With Students53:18 – Creating Safe Space for LGBTQ+ Youth57:50 – The Bully Story: A Jacket, a Bus & Standing Your Ground01:07:01 – The RISE Program & The Gift of Nonverbal Kids01:11:59 – Being Dismissed as "Just a Sub"01:15:53 – Final Question: Who Are You at Your Core?

What does it take to stop just surviving and start truly living? In this episode of The Essence of You, host Steph Lokelani sits down with Mindy Love - entrepreneur, community builder, and single mother of seven - for a deeply honest and joyful conversation about life after hardship, the power of thinking differently, and what it really means to know yourself.
Mindy shares the near-drowning experience on the Boise River that forced her to ask: What do I actually want to do with my life? From a difficult upbringing, to marrying young and raising seven children, to finding herself on the other side, Mindy's story is one of radical self-awareness, resilience, and choosing joy on purpose.
Steph and Mindy cover everything from the life-changing lessons of improv comedy, to morning routines, bachata dancing, solo travel in Europe, the realities of social media vs. real life, raising self-sufficient kids, entrepreneurship, and the mindset shift that makes all the difference.
If you've ever felt like you don't fit in one box, this episode is for you.
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In this episode, you'll hear about:
- How improv comedy helped Mindy come out of her shell and find her people- The near-drowning accident that changed everything and the peace she found underwater- Why Steph believes having a "backup plan" means not believing in yourself- Morning routines, intentional scheduling, and self-care for the chronically busy- Raising seven kids as a single mom and Mindy's unique "zone of ownership" system for the home- Why Mindy thinks differently about money, happiness, and what it means to truly live- The work-life balance lessons Mindy learned traveling through Amsterdam, Paris, and Spain- Navigating social media, comparison culture, and sharing your real story- The deep question: Who are you at your core, when all the labels fall away?
About Mindy Love:
Mindy Love is a multifaceted woman who is passionate about empowering others to step into their full potential. She sees the world through a unique lens and loves sharing her ideas, thoughts, and encouragement in a way that inspires real change.
With a degree in English and Anthropology, her path has been anything but traditional—she’s held many roles over the years, from cosmetologist to ESL teacher to business owner, and is also a licensed real estate professional in Idaho. A lifelong learner and world traveler, she brings curiosity and perspective into everything she does.
No matter where life has taken her, she always comes back to storytelling—whether that was writing for a small-town newspaper, sharing positive community stories, or studying and speaking on radio in college.
She’s also a single mom of seven, determined to create a life she truly loves, and finds joy in reading, writing, dancing, and anything that connects her to freedom—especially horses.
Chapters:
00:00 – Cold Open: "I just want to create a fun, happy life that works for me"00:55 – Welcome & Introduction: Meet Mindy Love01:51 – Why Mindy Got Into Improv Comedy04:57 – Thinking Differently: Mindy's Unique Perspective on Life06:23 – The Near-Drowning Experience on the Boise River09:17 – 45 Days of Recovery and the Question That Changed Everything10:37 – Shifts Mindy Made: Morning Routines and Intentional Time11:51 – Dancing as Joy: Bachata, Swing, and Finding Your Happy Place15:00 – After Divorce: Solo Trip to Florida and Starting Over18:00 – Prioritizing Fun and Scheduling Joy Into Your Week20:30 – Community, Loneliness, and What We Really Need from Each Other24:30 – Kids, Screen Time, and Getting Off Electronics26:50 – Social Media, the Highlight Reel, and Showing Your Real Life27:20 – What Experience Most Shaped Who You Are Today (Childhood & Faith)33:00 – Curiosity, Empathy, and Understanding Both Sides36:00 – Giving Grace to Strangers and Staying in a Good Mood40:00 – Self-Care When You Only Have 15 Minutes a Day44:00 – Progress Over Perfection and Tiny Improvements45:40 – Travel and European Work-Life Balance (Amsterdam, Paris, Spain)49:50 – Growing Up in Hawaii and the Healing Power of the Ocean54:00 – Parenting Seven Kids as a Single Mom: Survival Mode to Thriving57:00 – The "Zone of Ownership" System for Running a Household59:00 – Mental Health, Motherhood, and Teaching Kids Life Skills01:01:00 – Entrepreneurship, Ideas, and Passive Streams of Income01:03:47 – Closing Question: Who Are You at Your Core?01:05:43 – Final Words of Encouragement from Mindy

Welcome to the very first episode of The Essence of You Podcast, recorded live on Pi Day (March 14th) in front of a real audience in Boise, Idaho!
Host Steph Lokelani sits down with three incredible guests: Karma Metzler Fitzgerald (Community Leader), Reham Aarti (Arab American Mosaic Artist), and Mike Krause (Executive Coach & Mental Performance Strategist). Together, they dive deep into what it means to live authentically, lead with purpose, and show up for the people around you, even when burnout, imposter syndrome, and a chaotic world are telling you to stay home.
From a 400-pound mosaic, to running for state office on impulse, to finding life on the stage, these are stories of saying "yes" before you feel ready. The conversation ranges from the collapse of civic community and the broken nonprofit funding model, to matriarchal leadership, joy as resistance, and why knowing your own values is the antidote to exhaustion.
Raw, real, funny, and deeply human. This is the Essence of You.
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Guest Bios:
Karma Metzler Fitzgerald currently identifies as exhausted. Life just keeps… lifing… so her priority is resting when possible and finding joy in the beautiful and sacred ordinary. Karma grew up a few blocks away in a working class family here in Boise, while splitting time with her farm family a few hours down the road in Buhl. She’s a typical Idaho girl – playing in the mud all day and attending the grand ball at night. Along the twisted road of adulthood, she’s worked everywhere from the governor’s office to the family kitchen. The constant has always been words and a passion for stringing them together in such a way that those words change a moment or a lifetime. In Lincoln County, where she lived for thirty years, she co-created a community supported child care program for every child from birth to graduation. Karma also developed a rural public transportation program to get residents where they need to be at low or no cost. 
These days, Karma’s fully embracing her crone era. She leads with  fierce compassion seeking ways to connect people to the resources they need to thrive. Now back in Boise she is content to create a pollinator pathway in her neighborhood, muck about in her worm bins, and putter in her yard and garden. She does this while looking for opportunities to lead, build connection, and,  on occasion, stir up some trouble.
Reham Aarti is an Arab American mosaic artist, activist, author, and mother of two whose work celebrates resilience, cultural identity, and community. Over a 29-year career, she has created mosaic installations across the United States and internationally. Reham is deeply committed to using art as a tool for connection and healing, including founding a 17-year program bringing mosaic workshops to children at St. Luke’s Hospital. Through public art, community murals, and educational outreach, she works to create spaces where creativity, compassion, and belonging can thrive.
Mike Krause is an executive coach and mental performance strategist with Global Bound, LLC, where he partners with executives and emerging leaders to enhance performance, support sustainable growth, and strengthen holistic wellbeing both inside and outside the workplace. He brings over 25 years of executive leadership experience in the nonprofit sector, including 4½ years with the United States Department of State in Southern and Central Africa, where his work focused on public health initiatives and cross-cultural leadership.
Mike serves as an executive coach for the Idaho Leads program and is the developer and lead facilitator of the Ascending Leaders initiative through the Idaho Community Foundation. He is currently pursuing a master’s degree in Sport and Performance Psychology, while co-hosting a weekly podcast and traveling throughout the country speaking on leadership, workplace culture, and mental fitness practices.
Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome & Pi Day Origin Story01:00 – Introducing the Podcast02:30 – Guest Introductions04:50 – Reham's Mosaic Art16:30 – Karma's Journey: Journalism, Farming & Running for State Office24:00 – Karma on Community & Leading Change37:30 – Reham on Public Art & Volunteers41:15 – Mike's Journey: From Meridian to Chicago and back57:00 – Steph's Story: Filmmaking & Nonprofits59:00 – Balancing Compassion Fatigue & Joy as Resistance01:03:45 – Women as Community Glue & Matriarchal Leadership01:06:00 – Imposter Syndrome: Wearing a Mask vs. Knowing Who You Are01:17:00 – Audience Q&A: Burnout, Nonprofits & Getting Involved01:20:00 – The Broken Nonprofit Funding Model01:22:30 – Creating Sanctuary & Rebuilding Local Community01:26:00 – "Bowling Alone": How Civic Disconnection Threatens Democracy01:30:00 – Know Your Values, Get Out of Your Head & Lead with Stewardship01:34:00 – Closing Thoughts